poetry

solstice gift

solstice gift

our boys passed the day
harmoniously
lightening all
within their spheres

poetry

COVID haircuts

COVID haircuts

my boys bow their heads
and trust me with the scissors

like so many other bits of parenting
I’ve never done this before

at the first bite of shear against hair
Cedar squeals

my knitting scissors, the sharpest we have,
tug his locks as they slice

he fidgets and questions –
things he wouldn’t do with the barber –

and when the tips of the blades
nip him above the ear

we both know this cut is over
even with no blood drawn

I’m slightly more practiced for Owen
(the reverse of our usual pattern)

I know to use my left hand
as a guard against maiming

only cut my own flesh this time
and say nothing of the small red thread

I start with his bangs
the most critical, bothersome part

in case this session is also abruptly ended
by my carelessness

he is patient
I am sloppy

but manage to at least
give him back his sight

in the end he looks younger –
the opposite of a skilled cut –

but before bed after shower
washed, brushed, and slicked to the side

he looks presentable
says something about liking it short

as always
I bow to my children next

thankful for the latest new thing
they’ve allowed me to learn

poetry

Jack

Jack

she writes
Black Lives Matter
and he writes
no
undoing the humanity of millions
in two small letters
undoing his daughter’s hope
he writes no
we watch in horror
as he chooses
supremacy
power
privilege
subjugation
oppression
hegemony
arrogance
over his daughter’s
LOVE

poetry

unexpected generosity

Owen helped me film my contributions to the Earth Stanzas project. You can view them on our YouTube channel.

unexpected generosity

I keep apologetically
thanking my son
for helping me,
for spending his time
on something important to me,
and he’s just puzzled
why I should be
this grateful

poetry

Debaser in Chief

Debaser in Chief

at a time this country needs
men who lay down arms
take a knee
and march with us

he stands scolding
arms folded shaking his head
then wagging his finger

just like my father
standing over my little bawling son
ordering
you –
cut that out

they never learned
the fastest way to end tears
is with with an understanding
hug

something in this breathless time
we all ache for

poetry

forgiveness

forgiveness

one day after I nick him with the scissors
he says next time his hair is in his eyes
I may try again

I believe in second chances he says
with all the gravity of a 9-year-old
who has come to accept adult failings

what greater gift could there be
from your own child’s lips?

poetry

baby toes

baby toes

his toe hurts
on the inside

my insides recoil –
is this it then?
it’s still weeks
(if not months)
til we know

do you remember
those round baby toes
tender as sweet peas?
they’re always on the inside –
my infant sons
embedded in these now lanky
sometimes sullen
more often wise and generous souls
like reverse ancestors
ghosts of their young selves
bound to the present
shades/shadows stitched to their current forms

when they were born
the curious asked
what’s the hardest part?
being so vulnerable

(I always knew)
so many new ways to come to harm –
these beings from my body
out in the sometimes indifferent world
and I so imperfect to guard them well enough

tonight I will pray
for soft pink carefree souls
toes running barefoot tomorrow
dodging disaster
one more day

poetry

Mother’s Day Poems 2020

sacrifices

the very hardest part
of this hard scary spring
is not hugging
my own mom

Amma in a time of Covid

from the smallest world
of anyone I know
she sends 50-year-old postcards
from all over the globe
elegant puzzles with intricate pieces
novels about whatever’s going on
(foxes, Incas, Aborigines)
she sends a tube of sock supplies
and the needles to make them
questions and answers
and a basket going over a balcony
to keep everyone safe
most of all
she sends her love

Molly

she keeps the vacuum calendar
and the trusty stopwatch
she buys masks
for the mailman
she funds the nanny
and the housekeeper
while they stay home
she reins in Gram
and a bouncy son
when you stop by
she can’t stop giving

Kira

in her outpost
far from the other mothers of her line
she waits for sun and sand and snowmelt
braiding a story
that will become a song

May

in my binder
of delicious delights
I spy her handwriting
over and over
she’s making life sweeter
one opened oven door
at a closed-up time

poetry

feeding the children

feeding the children

I pile up platters of care
oodles of cuddles
vats of validation
chafing dishes of just-right challenges
ample heapings of acceptance
call them to the table
groaning under the weight
of what seems to me abundance

but only they are able
to part their lips
and allow nourishment in
only they can accept these offerings

meanwhile we all sit rigidly
waiting to see
if any fork is lifted

poetry

a striking truth re mothering boys

a striking truth re mothering boys

after 12 years of mothering boys
I still don’t quite get it

we leave for a walk and I ask them
to leave their PVC pipes behind

let’s not whack things
let’s not be violent
let’s be quiet
and look for animals

they grumble, but do it for me
and within minutes they’re clutching
big brown blocks of icy snow
smashing them against each other

after one starts crying
I try again
let’s not beat on each other
let’s just walk
and see the world

the crying one protests,
requesting more abuse,
but we continue plodding along

until they both spy a mullein
at the same time –
a ramrod-straight perfect sword –
they both fall upon it at once

after much wrestling and wresting
they strike a deal
as to who can whack with it

I still have not learned
how much they need
to feel their own bodies
through the vibrations
of something else striking them

how their muscles need to be told
where they are in space
how they need to be sure
they exist right now
with the solid reassurance
only a good thwack will give